a few weeks ago, I made a facebook status about a double standard. it triggered quite a reaction; today... a friend made a status that said... 'for those people that say they love to be single... try being in love and tell me which one is better' or something along those lines and it made me want to blog about that thought I had a few weeks ago.
I am single, but I am not sure I would happily CHOOSE to be. I think there is a distinct difference between being single by circumstance and being single by choice. I don't believe that we as humans are built to be single, to be on our own. yes, we can argue that you can be happy and be single - and I don't deny that. surrounded by ones friends or families... one can happily go through life never feeling "lonely"... one remains ALONE though.
I believe that it is everyone's want to have that one person that they can share things with. Intimate moments - not physical moments, but emotional moments, special times, precious memories. I don't think that humans were built not to have this type of relationship.
So why "choose to be single"? I don't believe that.
I think that this is an excuse, a cop out, a capitulation.. for lack of better words, it's blasphemy.
I think that when someone (and I include myself in this) says they "choose" to be single, they are saying they are either to lazy or too scared to get into relationship with another. I suppose sometimes this can be fair enough - after a long relationship, a particularly painful experience, but in the long term, choosing to be single is giving up on being in a relationship.
